My Dear Friend, I Can’t Convert You

Only God can convert. My job is to evangelize.  A letter to a friend who doesn’t yet embrace the Faith, and a reflection for those who have friends and family whom they desperately want to see come home to the Church.  

My Dear Friend,

I can’t convert you.

But have you ever heard of Saul?

The early Christians were on fire with the Faith.  They taught about Jesus all the time and everywhere.

But Saul wasn’t buying it.

No, more than that.  Saul hated it.

He knew the teachings.  He had heard it all before.  And he knew those Christians were wrong.  They worshiped some dead guy.

They were crazy.

So he set out to kill them.

No matter what the Christians did, they couldn’t change Saul’s mind.  They couldn’t sway his heart.

And then Jesus showed up.

With a flash of light, He blinded Paul and knocked him to the ground.

And introduced Himself.

“It is I, Jesus, whom you are persecuting.”

And Saul’s life changed.

He joined the Christians.  They welcomed him into the family, the Body of Christ.

His life changed so radically, he became a new person.  He even changed his name.  Now we know him as Paul.

I’m not trying to convince you by this story.

I just want to tell you what I learned.

I learned that I can’t change your mind.

I can’t change your heart.

I can’t convert you.

So I won’t even try.

But I can and will continue to be on fire with the Faith.

And like the early Christians, I can let my Faith be such a big part of my life that I can’t contain it any more.  I can let the Faith radiate from me as a visible part of who I am.

So I’m going to.

I’m going to continue sharing all the things that I find true, good, and beautiful.

Like this sunset.

And that curriculum that I used with my kids.

And stories about my best friend, Jesus.

You might hate it.

You’ll probably think I’m crazy.

Hopefully you won’t try to kill me.

And I’ll keep praying that someday, Jesus will introduce Himself to you.

I pray that He will shine the light of Truth into your life.  But perhaps a bit more gently than He did with Saul.

When that day comes, let me know.  I’ll be waiting here, ready to welcome you home.  And we’ll be more than friends.  We’ll be family.

And your life will change.

It will change so radically that you’ll receive a new name: Christian.

Not because I did anything to change it.


I can’t convert you.

And I know that.

But He can.

All my love in Jesus Christ,


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7 thoughts on “My Dear Friend, I Can’t Convert You

  1. So many people think of evangelization as knocking on doors–but I’ve always thought that living joyful Christian lives that attract others who want what we have is the best way to go about it! Great post.


  2. Can we all agree to pray that most of our political leaders have a Saul to Paul conversion?? Here’s to hoping 🙂


  3. Such truth in this article! All too often, I think many Christians worry their job *is* to do the conversion. And, I think that also extends to the parents’ fears for their adult children.

    But, one thing I realized recently is that God makes Himself known to each of us in His time – we, who are Christians, know Him because at some point, He revealed Himself to us. He lifted the veil for our souls to see, to find Him, and to have peace; I apply that to parenting, to my non-Catholic (but Christian) husband, and to anybody I meet – we are all on our own spiritual journey. While I can help lead my family (specifically) to Jesus, I can’t *make* them believe. At some point He will make Himself known to them, and they will have the task of accepting or rejecting Him.

    Hopefully I will have planted the seeds firmly enough that they will accept Him!

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    • Your thoughts are so perfect! Before I wrote this, I had to look up the definitions for “convert” and “evangelize,” and it really hit me that conversion is not my job. It’s all up to God, it’s a Divine calling. But We can totally evangelize! Like you said, we plant the seeds.

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